hi. i used to be obsessed with this podcast lori and guy are great at what they do not just as therapists but the way that they cooperate make this podcast so enjoyable and eye opening the only problem i have is there is sooooo much ad going on i know that you can listen ad free but i think there still has to be a limit to it its just distracting at this point and it takes away from this amazing experience. thank you

Unique and fascinating but is the show done now? No updates from the hosts and reruns for the past couple of seasons. Think I’m going to unfollow now.

Incredible insight and information with these two very wise therapists .

This was a favorite podcast. Excellent, insightful! However, it’s been on pause for quite some time. Please give loyal fans an update on your status!

Where did the promised new season of the podcast go?

I binge-listened to this podcast. I am totally in awe of how beautifully Guy and Lori are able to get insights in a short amount of time. Almost anyone and everyone can gain numerous takeaways.

Really fabulous. Great advice. I wish I’d had a session with Laurie and Guy 20 years ago!

This show really has something for everyone. It is so satisfying at the end when the tasks are given and clarity is achieved.

Super insightful. Guy and Lori have great chemistry. I appreciate their thoughtfulness and each episode offers something I can take away and practice in my own life.

I love this podcast! I’ve listened to other mental health podcasts which ok, but this podcast is professional, genuinely helpful, organized well and insightful. It has really helped me to see things in a different light. Lori and Guy are rational, fair and respectful. I definitely recommend this podcast.

I learn something about myself and my relationships no matter how far afield the subject’s experiences are from mine. Love Lori and Guy’s warmth and insights!

I enjoy the podcast, but enough with the encores!

I LOVE listening to Lori and Guy. They meet people with many different challenges and I love the insight and compassion they share. They’re so smart and provide such great advice. I learn a lot from them.

This show used to be great but I don’t know how you can say you’re in season four when all of the “new” episodes are repeated from previous seasons. Is a new episode ever going to happen?

Thank you, Lori and Guy for putting such helpful support into the world. Every episode offers reminders about how I want to show up in my relationships and with myself. And I love hearing the two of you process and reflect on each podcast guest. So glad I just discovered Dear Therapists, I’ve been listening nonstop!

What is the point of this podcast if they never release new episodes? It was great but there hasn’t been a new episode in years.

Lori and Guy are just fabulous ! Full of compassion,wisdom,insightful and deep kindness .I have just started listening recently and this is amazing .I always learn some new principle about self-esteem, healthy relationships ,and self care which I can apply to my own life. Thanks so much for an amazing program which I enjoy so much .

I’m so grateful for the wisdom and generosity offered by Lori and Guy and their guests. Even when the particulars are outside my own experience, I learn so much that I can apply to my own life. Thank you and I so look forward to new episodes.

Absolutely love this podcast and learn so much from it. I really hope new episodes are coming soon!

I love this show and always learn something about myself from it. I loved it enough to listen to the existing seasons a second time when they started reruns. But then came a second round of reruns! Too much for me. I really hope new episodes are coming. 4.5 stars.

I really enjoy this show but it’s been on hiatus for quite a while. Any ideas or updates on when/if it is coming back?

I had a thought about the letter from the woman who wanted revenge. It very much sounds like the daughter sent message and it went as planned. Sorry for the vengeful woman and I pray she finds peace. She could well be dodging a bullet. I can tell her first hand that when the daughter doesn’t want her dad to date or marry, she can cause great damage to herself, the father and you. I’m in a relationship where the daughter and sons have been a nightmare to deal with to the degree I have PTSD now at the thought of seeing them. I treat them well however and am thoughtful and kind and forgive them. I figured that I would be understanding and patience and give it time. When you treat people well and don’t impose or overstep after time, they should see you and just want peace themselves. It hasn’t happened. After so many, after the fact, negative comments to their dad about me, even when the visits seemed great, it has taken its toll. I want peace in my life so I refuse to keep the frustration they try to give out. It’s hard when my now husband has never validated how I must feel or that they shouldn’t treat me this way. I gave with him the whole time encouraging him and giving advice. When he hasn’t listened and persisted with his tactics with them, he has gotten shut out. Two of the three refuse to talk to him and upon reflection and by his own admission he didn’t have a good relationship before we met. He will blame me in arguments, even when I only was thoughtful and helpful to him to have a good visit. I felt hopeful at first because I’m tenacious and don’t give up easy. I have tried by paying attention to the barometer of feeling when he would talk to them so I didn’t come between and would be quiet or let him just see them on his own. From the start I’ve encouraged him to contact them and to think of how they might want to hear from him. At this point, his daughter sent a Thankyou card for Christmas gifts I sent her family that was filled more with snide remarks than thankfulness. I was stunned at the reading of it and hurt and upset and he said nothing. When asked why he wasn’t saying anything he said he thought it was fine. I cried and couldn’t believe how cold hearted he could be. I found out later that she sent a note to him as well at work that said mean things about me. I am a generally calm, kind person and I’ve worked hard in my lifetime to get past abuse in my childhood and to claim my right to have peacefulness in my life and to have healthy relationships by reading much about human behavior and know that after looking at yourself to see what you could need to change or what did you do or not to contribute, you must forgive and look at how the person must be in pain to be hurtful. No, I obviously don’t have it all figured out, but I know that my whole life I took care of my brothers and extended family since I was young enough to see they aren’t getting what they needed from my parents. I have worked hard to reframe my childhood and live in peace. My grown daughters call me for advice and I know that I tread lightly and only talk about experiences that have worked for me or others and encourage them about what I have seen in them that makes them able to deal with what ever they face. I want them to feel empowered and loved. I also don’t bring things back up. I consider myself a strong woman but this marriage is taking its toll. There is more but have already write so much. I didn’t plan this but must have needed it. Thank you for your show.

I have learned about my internal self and seen others from a new perspective by listening to dear therapists. I’m sure a lot goes on before we hear these episodes including vetting and editing, but the result is still substantive and revelatory. I like the go-forth actions and the feedback from the person a few weeks later. A chance to apply what they’ve learned. A lot of bravery on the part of participants. Great podcast. Thanks.

Where are the new episodes???

After reading Lori Gottlieb’s great memoir of therapy, “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” I was excited to find her podcast with fellow psychologist, Guy Winch. People write in with seemingly insurmountable problems, and Lori and Guy provide a therapy session in which deeper aspects of the presenting issue are uncovered. Then they offer some assignments and the “client” reports back with how it went. No matter the subject, there are usually take-always for the listener about communication, listening, setting boundaries, etc. it’s one of my favorite shows and hope they will have a new season soon because I’ve already listened to most of the encore old episodes!

If you are an arm chair therapist like I am you will be clamoring for the next season of this podcast. Lori and Guy are knowledgeable, insightful and so kind. They efficiently help people get to the crux of their issues and clearly articulate what the callers can do to help themselves. I love their follow up after each session. Even when I did not think an episode would interest me, I was wrong. There is much to learn from other people’s behavior and you will be surprised at how often their insight can alter the perspective of your own life and decisions.

I have to navigate NYC traffic a few times a week and this is my favorite calming podcast to keep me focused. Please keep more episodes coming!

This is such a remarkable show and I feel very grateful to have found it when I did. Please keep the episodes coming!

This is an exceptional podcast to reveal what therapy is like. I’m fearful with the increasing popularity of Lori’s book that this podcast will start heading into the “cross-over” episodes (interviewing other podcasters and cross promoting, ie etc etc ) that are so tiresome in this space. For now, this podcast is a true original.

The episode with Stephanie and her mother was so disappointing. There was a lot of caretaking of the mother’s feelings and Stephanie’s largely took a back seat. The foundation for the mother’s shame (generational, and ten bucks says these two are from the Midwest) was addressed so poorly that Stephanie even admitted that she couldn’t reach the point of empathy for it. The wavering in her voice was a lot of pain not being acknowledged. The verbalization of love at the end of the episode was probably the only piece that would offer Stephanie healing at all. The mother thanked the therapists for helping “us” verbalize but should have just expressed thanks on behalf of herself.

Thank you for putting on such a thorough, well-balanced and insightful show. I can tell you really care about helping your guests and appreciate the homework and follow ups. Despite not having the same issues as your guests, I somehow walk away each and every time learning something new about myself and thinking of ways I can better my life or gain a more nuanced and empathetic understanding of those around me.

In the middle of listening to the Emily Encore episode. The therapists are way off. When a partner says “I think we are done,” they speak the truth as to what they really feel and the relationship has likely ended before that. Unless they use it to control the other partner, which is abusive and an even bigger reason to leave. The man likely never wanted a new baby with Emily, he had a child and wanted Emily to be a mother for his existing child (he probably thought: “Oh great, she wants children, she wants to be a mother, good thing I already have a child”). If he might have toyed with the thought of having a new baby with Emily, the cancer diagnosis most likely put a death knell into that. The partner first facetiming a full hour every day with Emily and then retreating because he needed more time for his son (allegedly) was a clear bait and switch. Stonewalling is another relationship-ender/a sign that the original stonewaller never wanted to be in that relationship. It’s in general never a good idea to move into an existing living space of one partner when you start a relationship. Both partners best move into a new place. The only mistake I see Emily making is to rush too quickly into new relationships. That’s how she ended up with drug users and alcoholics. She had a low bar before meeting this husband but realistically, it’s slim pickens out there, particularly at her age. And with regards to new husband, her friends warned her: don’t you first want to live with the man before you marry him? They may have picked up on something she didn’t want to see. As to moving out while he was away, she may have had her reasons for that. Wanting to limit drama is a good enough reason imo but if he was controlling and emotionally abusive (bait and switch, stonewalling) she may have simply not felt safe to move out while he was present. Emily’s wish for a baby puts way too much pressure on her decision-making as well as on the men she picks. Maybe they feel reduced to a sperm donor and that’s why there is no emotional connection. Emily might have to say goodbye to that babywish and calm down a bit. And stop plunging into relationships so fast. But criticizing Emily for leaving a relationship “too soon” when it’s clearly toxic and more than over is very much off the wall. Women in general way too often stick “it” out for way too long and Emily has learned that lesson. Good for her. The guy showed up for therapy way too late, it was probably a last ditch effort to get her to change her mind but he will most likely never change.

This is a fascinating insight into human psychology, and both therapists offer step by step advice to create better personal awareness and manageable steps to help navigate life. Thank you for sharing seemingly unique situations that benefit so many of us!

As a counselor myself, I definitely learn from this podcast. The hosts are honest with their guests and they don’t hold back. Thank you so much!!

I LOVE this podcast!

As a therapist, I admire and appreciate the skill, compassion and insight you share each week through this podcast. Though you are not doing therapy in the traditional sense, you demonstrate beautifully the awareness and understanding that can be gained through compassionate exploration, as well as the value of taking action steps to break old patterns or try on new behavior. I always take away something of value after listening.

After reading Lori’s book ‘Maybe You Should Talk to Someone’, I googled her for a website but discovered she had a podcast. It’s such a good follow up from the book. Listening to the variety of people and situations, you don’t feel so different from everyone else. Almost every one could benefit from therapy and this might be the impetus to that end.

I love this podcast. It’s incredibly helpful - every episode is relatable even when I think it won’t be.

Thank you for creating this show. I love advice columns and podcasts and this is my newest favorite. My girlfriend and I listen in the car on long drives and are just so frequently like “YES! WHAT A GREAT QUESTION TO ASK THIS PERSON!” … Lori and Guy, you are so compassionate and so skilled at therapy AND SO THOROUGH.. It’s beautiful to see that people are calling in to reach out for help, and sometimes the thing that they think is the issue is only the tip of some other iceberg in another ocean, and over the course of an hour or less, it seems like real progress is so frequently made in getting to the bottom of it. It’s cathartic and meaningful and beautiful. And also, sometimes Guy is super funny at appropriate intervals. Lori, too! The show is so great. Thank you. And if you’re reading this review considering whether you should listen to the show, DO IT. If you want. Up to you. I love it. Thank you!

And I love this show. Guy and Lori are so smart and insightful and sensitive and loving. Even though their approaches are different from mine often times, I still learn so much and find their energy very inspiring and comforting and useful to me in my own work. Also, I love the format in which they interview the person with a lot of subtlety and nuance, and then give them an assignment after which the person comes back with what they did, and what they learned. This is so much more in-depth than some programs in this particular genre.

I have learned so much about myself from just listening to the stories of other people. I’m excited to listen to the next episode.

I absolutely love this podcast. I'm so impressed with how insightful Lori and Guy are. One of the things that I love the most about it is how often I start out feeling judgemental about the people they work with, and how much dignity Lori and Guy give them. I also tend to feel that the presenting problems are soooooo serious and intractable, and then Lori and Guy so patiently and gently unwind the issues and offer truly helpful therapy for them. This podcast is a gift. Thank you!

Very relatable sessions. Entertaining and informative therapist engage on emails and with the writer for clarity. Way too many commercials. Uneven production quality.

I’ve enjoyed Lori Gottlieb's columns in the Atlantic for years and this podcast is also very informative and helpful. The best part is that there are nuggets in each episode for just about anyone trying to get better at this being human thing

I have been listening to this show for weeks. I have learned lots while listening and thinking through the relationship scenarios. However, after listening to “Nora’s” unwanted pregnancy episode, I find it completely unforgivable that the two therapists ignored Nora’s biggest concern. You never addressed the fact that she and her boyfriend aborted their baby and that it destroyed their relationship. Nora can’t forgive herself and she can’t forgive her now-husband for doing this. Until she can tell him the grief and devastation this caused her and until he admits to his coldness in dehumanizing the pregnancy with his comments and how wrong he was, they will not get through this. He wanted her to even get a second abortion but she stood up to him and did not do it. Then he miraculously decided to become a good father and take on the responsibilities. And I’m guessing Nora is wondering why she didn’t push back and keep the first baby. It’s called cognitive dissonance. The only way she can live with herself is by believing he can’t love her and that she can’t have a relationship or have fun “dancing” with the man who is responsible for the death of her baby. Did you never notice how she kept calling the son, “my son” and not “our son”. She realizes that she is the reason he was born because had it been up to her then boyfriend, her son would also be dead. And somehow through the obvious grief and depression event of this precious Nora, Guy and Lori never one time recognize or tell her how it is normal to feel devastated about causing the loss of her unborn child. How crazy this society is. Everyone wants to say that abortion is all about the rights and desires of the mom. But instead, it is really about what he wanted. She did not feel she could go back on her word even though she totally changed her mind about keeping the baby once she realized what it felt like to have that baby inside her. What a gross miscarriage of responsibility in this therapy session. The only possible resolution is for them both to recognize their feelings about the terrible choice it was for them to abort the baby and then they will have to forgive each other before they can move on to having a meaningful relationship. I’m so sorry for Nora and the fact that Guy and Lori completely ignored this devastating event in her life and never tried to help her overcome this.

Hands down my favorite podcast. I always learn so much from Guy and Lori no matter the episode. As a brand new therapist this is like free education! Thank you for the content and your efforts to help so many people. Knowledge is therapy!

Love the therapists on the show!! So eye opening and love listening.

Great podcast, helps me to better understand myself and gain a deeper understanding of my own woulds. I have been to therapy off/on as I have needed it and I still gain much from this podcast.

Dear Therapist is a wonderful podcast. The stories really draw you in and the therapists’ wise questions and thoughtful advice speak to so many life situations. They always leaving me thinking and mulling things over and applying the ideas and suggestions to my own life. And they are always, without fail, kind and encouraging. Five stars all the way!

Lori & Guy help the client (and me!) with advice specific enough to follow. They provide a script essentially for the hard conversations. Telling someone to have a conversation, to confront something, or to remain supportive but not enabling doesn’t do most of us much good. The question is HOW? I get how from these therapists every time. Fellow therapists, I hope you’re listening! They also gently confront. I think this is so important in therapy, and for me as a listener it teaches me how to interrogate my own motivations and the stories I tell myself. I enjoy this podcast very much. Even when I think the subject is not relevant to me or the client very different from me, I get something I can take away and apply to my life every time.